As a wedding officiant in North Carolina, I’ve had the honor of standing where two people promise forever to one another. While traditional weddings are magical in their own right, there’s something uniquely intimate about elopements that makes them special—not just for the couple, but for those lucky enough to witness them.
The Charm of Elopements
Elopements focus on the heart of the matter: two people deeply in love. There is no crowd—just the couple, an intimate setting, and a few select people (if any). As an officiant, being part of such an unfiltered moment is a humbling experience. Just like the enchanting picture to the right, which was at the WRAL Azalea Gardens.
In these ceremonies, the lack of distractions allows emotions to take center stage. The vows are often unhurried, tender, and deeply personal, spoken only to connect with the person standing before them. It’s a privilege to witness this level of authenticity up close.
Direction of the Ceremony
In traditional weddings, the officiant sometimes feels like a guide, ensuring the ceremony runs smoothly amid a whirlwind of activities. In elopements, however, I direct the ceremony from start to finish. Like larger weddings, elopements allow creativity and individuality to be part of the ceremony. In some elopements, the couple chooses a wedding planner to complete their vision with only family present. They may choose to livestream it for other guests keeping the actual ceremony small like this wedding with Daniel at Harmony Weddings.
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The Magic of the Setting
Elopements often take place in many locations—here in North Carolina, we have many beautiful public gardens, museums, and lakes. Many couples choose to have their ceremony at home surrounded by family. As an officiant, it’s incredible to officiate a private ceremony on the lake or in a garden. Some examples are Gregg Museum of Art and Design, on the campus at NC State. and Lake Crabtree County Park.
Nature often becomes a quiet witness, adding its blessing to the union. The view of water, flowers, or artistic sculptures sets the tone, making the moment even more serene and poetic.
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Flexibility and Freedom
One of the greatest joys of elopements is their flexibility. Without rigid timelines or large guest lists to consider, couples are free to craft their day as they wish. Some choose to exchange vows at sunrise, while others opt for a moonlit ceremony under the stars. The photo at right was an outdoor evening wedding in January at the Meadows at Firefly Farm Preserve.
As an officiant, I adapt to their vision, whether that means hiking a trail or braving unexpected weather, even if it is 30 or 90 degrees. The photo on the left was taken at the Raleigh Rose Garden in the middle of summer!
The spontaneity and freedom of elopements create moments that feel genuinely alive and unscripted.
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Why Elopements Are So Special
Elopements remind us of the essence of marriage: love, partnership, and a shared journey. For me as an officiant, they’re a chance to be part of something sacred and pure. The lack of fanfare doesn’t diminish the importance of the day.
Standing with a couple as they say “I do” in such an intimate way reaffirms why I do what I do. It’s a chance to be part of a story that’s not about grand gestures but about meaningful ones.
Advice for Couples Considering an Elopement
If you’re thinking about eloping, know that it can be as beautiful, intentional, and meaningful as any traditional wedding. Focus on what matters to you both. Choose a location that speaks to your heart, write vows that reflect your love, and trust your officiant to help bring your vision to life.
For me, every elopement is a reminder that love doesn’t need an audience—it only needs two hearts willing to say, “We choose each other.” And in that moment, as you make that promise, the world feels a little brighter.
If you’re planning your elopement, I’d love to help make your ceremony unforgettable. Contact me, and let’s create something as unique as you!