The wedding ceremony is intended to show your love story to your family and friends. It is an expression of the love you have for one another and a way to share this with the people that are important to you. I always impress upon couples that it is their ceremony, it can be anything they want.
I find that couples like the structure of a traditional ceremony: opening words, the gathering of friends, declaration of support, marriage address, vows, exchange of rings, and the final words. This is true for weddings whether they are spiritual, secular or religious. I began officiating weddings in North Carolina when we changed the laws to allow LGBT couples to marry. I was upset with some of the NC government employees, who did not want to do their job and marry all couples. I had become an ordained minister to open an Energy Healing business. It allows you to console someone with a touch on the shoulder, hand etc. A friend saw that I had become ordained and asked me to marry him and his fiance. Thus I began this new career three years ago.
One of my favorite parts of a ceremony crafted the way the couple wanted was with Molly and Jordan. They both wore long white wedding dresses and both of them had their father give them away. This wedding took place in Farmville, NC, a small rural town at Benjamin May Lewis House. It was a pleasure to see tradition being challenged and the full embracing of this change by guests and family.
Another wedding with a different twist was Jessica and Vicky’s wedding in Clayton, NC at the Wagner House. The three children were included from a previous marriage, they all joined in a sand ceremony.
Fred and Christopher wanted to be married at Pullen Park in Raleigh since it has been part of both of their lives for many years. The ceremony was performed under the gazebo on the lake, with the final vows taking place on the carousel with all of the guests riding with the wedding party.
Look for an upcoming post on the Medieval Wedding I officiated. This was one of the most unusual weddings that I have participated in.
Feel free to contact me for any ideas to make your wedding unique to you and your partner.